What You Can Do To Take Action Against Bullying

I was bullied a lot at school. Teachers only encouraged other to pick on me and another heavyset girl that I was friends with. I am a skinny model type girl. I remember what teachers encouraged other student to do to me and my friend. All I got to say bout that is if my kid come home and tells me that a student pushed them and that the teacher let it happen, I ant gonna play that game. They be messing with the wrong person. Discimination don’t fly. Rather the person is male, female, black, white, fat, or skinny, It don’t matter. I ain’t going to put up with it. My kid ain’t going to be a bully, but they ain’t going to be bullied ether. I mainly blame the teachers because they make doraugatory and racist comments to other kids to start a fight. I’ve been their and done that. All I got to say is if They have a problem with my kid, they have two people to call, me or my kids’ dad, but they don’t touch my kid. My heavyset friend, well it was her first day in our class, well she went into the bathroom, Next thing I remember she being dragged out with her pants down because the teacher said she didn’t ask to go to the bathroom, and she was wharring a bracelet on her arm. That teacher humiliated the girl. No one wanted to be her friend after that. But I did. She was nice to me. That was just an excuse the teacher had. I’m from Florida, the bad section. I don’t get mad I get even, But I do it in a verbal sarcastic way. Not a hands on way. You don’t put your hands on another person even if they do deserve it. School got so bad, my mom sat in the class for like a week, Well she seen and heard all she needed to see and hear. The next year, seventh grade through twelfth grade I was homeschooled. When I came out to be home schooled I has a third grade level. When I graduated I had a Twelfth grade level. I give the credit to my mom for every thing I know. This is my opinion- Teachers need to be paid commission. Mabe then they would teach instead of sitting on their butt doing nothing. Their should be test to make sure the kids are learning everything they need to know for their future. If the children fail it should fall on the teacher that is supposed to be teaching. That way the lazy teachers get paid commission per child and maybe they would consentrate less on having a sexual relation ship with certain students and do their job.

one of my twins get picked on all the time teacher all ways have and adscuse. for every person when they do it .its a teacher there that dont care for my doughter whom is 7yrs old and sadly shes a part of it.

i was also teased and made fun of at school and itwas to the point i felt like killing myself. im 37 now and im still bothered by it.people who bully others should have to faces some kind of legal charges, because it emotionaly scars people they bully and some kids canrecover somewhat and lead a somewhat normal lfe while others contemplate suicide as a meens to stop the pain.i know suicide is no ansewer but it still emotionally bothers me and i feel like a loser around people and i feel like noone will even care if im dead

im not going to do it but i am very depressed about it

I was also picked on by Students & Teachers. Thats all right, what goes around comes around.

My son was being bullied at his middle school. I knew something was wrong because everyday he was calling me from the nurses station and asking me to come get him the first or second time it didnt send off any alarms but it constantly happened everyday, My son wouldnt tell me what was happening at school. So I called the nurse and told her that he had to stay at school unless he was physically ill. Several days later, I went to drop him off at school and he had a nervous breakdown! All that kept running through my mind was “Guilt” because i put him in that situation. From there he got the help he needed and attends a Private Christian school that he loves, Although , the bullying took something away from him and I dont think he’ll ever forget!!

This issue really hit’s a nerve with me, I was bullied as a child from most of the girls through out grade school. Either it was my clothes , hair or whatever they decided on that day…..”girls” can be mean & hurtful & turn the girls in the class against you.
The problem is I really don’t think that some teacher’s or student’s, later in that child’s life understand” how much ” it really affects them, as they get older? but it does…. in my case , after all the pain I went through as a child in grade school I BECAME the bully in jr.high school and it’s NOTHING to be proud of , I wasn’t going to let anyone treat me like that anymore ! I feel that in some cases like mine “this is what happens”?
I can’t begin to tell you how much it bother’s me now thirty years later , and it goes back to grade school and the terrible memories I have of being teased, called names & not being played with, I do believe in my heart that it changed the person I was suppose to be .
Now , all these years later my daughter is being mistreated , not being played with or teased & it break’s my heart , I feel like she is reliving my life. I’m trying to guide her in the right direction and truly help her……. I don’t want her to end up becoming a bully like I did ! but, I also don’t want her to be unhappy with herself or loose interest in school .
I encourage her not to get caught up with being a follower ……. doing what some of the other girls do isn’t always” right “? just to fit in! I was never one of those kid’s that followed anyone ….. maybe that’s “why”? I was preyed upon as a little girl. All I know is that it affected me & I think that is why I failed with certain issues in my life.
I teach both of my children to defend themselves & each other ….. but if I hear that either one of them start ANYTHING with another child they will have to pay the consequences at home . I will not allow my children to mistreat anyone, I remind both of them how it feels when someone mistreats them & to THINK before they open there mouth’s & hurt someone.
All I can say is that I’m very sorry to everyone out there that bullied in jr,high , if they only knew the truth behind it …… that sometimes in some cases when your bullied you can later find yourself becoming one , so please whoever reads this pay attention to your child if they come to you with being bullied do what you can to help him or her , because they can suffer for it later in there lives. . The emotional wound’s that you feel from being bullied “well”………….. that doesn’t t really ever go away. It will affect them in somehow? in there lives just be there to help anyway you can..

The bully we know now, at least most lately. Lately. She was jealous. no other ways about it. riping up my childs hard work, stealing from the birthday presents for other members. Her parents are so busy fighting, they involve everyone around them hoping for support one way or other. All WE see is that the children are hurting and screaming for help,and the parents DON’T EVEN NOTICE OR CARE. SOOOOOOOOSAD

As a child I was bullied and it continued through to adult years. I am disabled D/T Depression and Anxiety. We had to move away from our family, church, friends and everything our boys knew. It was so hard and still is almost 4 yrs later. The school they started in has a “Anti-Bully Program” yet they didn’t take things seriously until the authorities had to be called. They openly admitted “they dropped the ball.” Yes you guessed it they blew things off after many phone calls and watching my sons grades plumet. He was bullied by the same boy from the first day of 6th grade up to the middle of his 8th grade year. He was choked out and started coming to consciousness feeling the 2nd hit to his eye. He told me “mom I don’t know what is going to happen tomorrow but I know something is going to happen.” I left a message for his teacher, principal and Dean. I got the call and was asked if I wanted to be there when the authorities came.” I said yes! I was also pressing charges! Though these kids went through probation,did community service and wrote an “apology letter” (which both bullies admitted they did not mean) they still continued bullying. I had to pull my son out of that school because he became so depressed, withdrawn and suicidal. What is a parent to do when their child says “They wouldn’t care if I ended up dead. I don’t have any friends and the teachers could care less. Everytime I go there I am going through my living hell like my Grandpa and Uncle did when they faught in Vietnam. Vietnam was their war going to this school is MY WAR, My living hell Mom. I can’t go back.” Thankfully, we were blessed with my parents, Uncle and Aunt to pay for the Christian Private School. There is NO WAY we could’ve financially done it otherwise. My son, Conner, got baptized along side his oldest bother last year and has come a long way. He was called “Momma’s boy”, “nark” because I WAS THERE EVERY STEP OF THIS FIGHT! My boys know I will be there for them. God gave my husband and I 3 wonderful boys. It is our duty as parents to be there for our children and not accept “Oh kids will be kids!” “You can’t fight their battles forever and if you are it will make it worse. Just let it go,it’ll pass.” Physical scars come and go but emotional scars are deeper than the human eye could see in a lifetime. The battle consumed my every being,my every breath and childhood memories. Bullying has deeply scarred not only my life but the lives of my children. Instead of going along with what so many I am taking a stand for my children and those who think they are alone. Conner said “Even though they put me through a living hell, I forgive them because I know that’s what God wants me to do. I will never, ever forget what they did to me.” Conner relives everything everytime he sees these boys but he said Without God and his family he wouldn’t be here.”

We have a problem with a bully who lives next door to us. He is 10 yrs old and does it because it makes him feel important. There are 2 boys in the neighborhood who tolerate his behavior as well as their parents. I don’t know why. I refuse to allow this kid to bully my son and my son will stand up to him and sometimes fight back. This is what makes my son his favorite target. The more my son sticks up for himself the worse it gets. The parents of this bully do not think his behavior is a problem - they think that I have the problem. My son is a cry-baby and I am over-protective crazy mother as far as they are concerned. We have no issue with any other children or parents in the neighborhood or in school.

Each year this bully gets bigger, stronger & more manipulative (the boys are 10 yrs old now). The parent do not care and even encourage his “tough-guy” behavior.

Anyone have any suggestions on how to handle this?

For Shelby, the only remedy I could think of would be to get your son involved in the martial arts - the self defense kind, like Karate or Kenpo/Kempo, not the flashy OFFENSE teachings. First of all it will help him down the line, should things get way too physical. Secondly, it helps guide kids (and adults) to like themselves, or at least be comfortable with themselves regardless of what the outer world and the mean people in it are saying.

Unfortunately, this will not help when the TEACHER is the bully. That is the issue WE are having and looking for help with. I spoke to the principal back in October and asked that he be moved, but all of the classes were full and she didn’t want to uproot another child just because mine “wasn’t happy with his teacher.” The parent-teacher conference back in November helped to put his teacher in check as far as keeping him in the corner, from beginning of class to the end of the day, for over two weeks; sending him into the hallway ALONE, unsupervised; using his paper (with his name visible) and saying “this is what NOT to do.” Now his situation has deteriorated to the point that any and every noise or talking out of turn or ANYTHING bad gets blamed on my son. Kids are even making stuff up just to get him in trouble. He has been raised NOT to lie, but will not take his word if ANYBODY else contradicts what he has to say…

I’m at the completely frustrated end of my rope. Any help out there? My Sicilian blood is really boiling…

John you changed my life with this message.I was bullied for 2 years. I have been scared ever sence that happened. Not any more. Thank you John!

BULLYING IS 1 OF THE WORST! IM 14 YRS OLD AND I OFTEN THINK IT WOULD B SO MUCH BETTR IF I WAS GONE BECUZ IT WOULD HURT SO MUCH OF WAT THE KIDS SAID 2 ME, I OFTEN BROKE DOWN WEN I GOT HOME BECUZ I DIDNT WANT ANY 1 2 C MY WEAK SPOT BUT I WOULD COME HOME CRYING EVRYDAY BCUZ OF THEM BUT I ALSO NO TAT NO MATTR HOW HARD IT GETS, SUICIDE IS NEVR THE ANSWER BCUZ I STILL HAVE A LOVING DEAR FAMILY TAT COMFORTS ME WEN I NEED THEM BUT EVN THOUGH I HAVE THEM I STILL FEEL VERY DEPRESSED BCUZ OF BULLYING AND I NO IT WILL CONTINUE BUT I NO I HAV 2 KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE AN KEEP MY HEAD UP,TAT IS 1 LESSON TAT I HOPE WILL HELP ME THROU IT ALL……..

John it has started again.I guess it is going on &off.I’m trying to handle this and so far it’s going out well.