How To Help Someone Who Has Been Sexually Assaulted

please git the bad men or girls or they will kill other people so please git them

Thanks for addressing this issue. This is a tough issue that is needed to be addressed. Everyone needs to view this in advance should they be confided in. Knowing how to act will be helpful in organizing one’s action should someone we know that is a victim needs a friend to guide them.

You need to be careful out there. I will be praying for you!

I’m so glad to have found this site. I reported, I trusted, I was revictimized by the law enforcement process - I was alone traveling, no one to trust but local law enforcement of a small rural town. . I believed in the system - how wrong I was

Don’t push them. They probably won’t want to talk to you, but don’t be offended. If you push them to talk to you as you could just be seen as being nosey.

Let them know that you’re their for them, regardless of anything else, you’re there to support them when they need you.

well thats good that you have this web sight 4 people that need help on stuff like that thats is realy good help a lot of people please thankyou

I am a former student of Jobcorps and believe someone was sexually abused she was a student as well and this was staff that did this to her no one knows this happened but me something has to be done about this what do I do.

Being sexually abused is a very serious crime. It has never happen to me, but i’m sure it happen to someone that care very much for. It has to stop right now.

This type of crime cuts into the very soul of us. The attitudes of some professionals towards this crime also brings into question our “belief” systems and how we got to thinking and acting this way. Even some women think other women “deserved” and/or “asked” for it. I guess we just got to keep plugging along and keep raising the issues and awareness. It truly is a very painful experience! Educating teachers, students, doctors, nurses, employers, employees, police, crown attorneys, social workers and front line workers is a must.
Thank you for keeping these issues in the forefront!
Carol

children do not give out personal information on the enter net. do not open strange emails this could lead to some one finding out where you live.

Dear Carol,
Thank You.

I am very concerned about this topic. Does it give anyone the right to put their hands on a person. no matter what they are. Male , Female. When a person say no.Doesn’t that seem to be enough. What does a person do when the other person takes no for an answer. And that over person fights back. Does that means that it is mutual when a person defends theirselves? Please help me. Cause I have a situation that has turned out to be a Mother’s Nightmare. My daughter lost her life because she stood up for herself. She was only 27 yrs old. Please can someone please help me understand. I seem to be butting heads with the law. 4 people were involved and the main one is walking the streets. The shooter is locked up. Please help me understand.

I just wish NO could be enough. But its not. And if you try to fight back it is considered mutal. that means to me that you have to just stand there and let someone do what they want to you and there is nothing you can do. Cause if you even try to fight back it won’t do no good and that person can walk the streets free. Free to put their hands on anyone they choose. To bad mine fought back and it cost her life. There are some sick people out there. and what they can get away with. no matter what age. NO is NO and that should be enough. My daughter was only 27 yrs old.The pain will never go away. ITs Going to be hard to explain to her 19 month old child what happen to her. Your Mommy was murdered. because she said NO and fought back. Lord help us all.

My sister & I were repetedly molested(raped) by 2 of our cousins when we were pre-teens. Nothing was ever done as this was in the 60’s & not talked about, it effects you for the rest of your life. We need VERY TOUGH laws for molesters & rapist, not just a slap on the wrist. Put them in prison & leave them there, never let them out because they NEVER change.

As a gang raped victim; I can say what sort of effect a rape has. I dealt by ‘burying’ the ordel, but I’d wake up every single morning depressed. I wish my mother reported it to the police, I had the evidence to prove and I was young and certainly humiliated. She said she knew something happened to me, because I was white as a ghost when I came home.
My Point: Get help. Talk to someone professional, it will be better then ignoring it and coming out in ways you’d never expect.

i was rape up in garden city g,a by a repeat sex offender he alrady had molsted a child and rape a women years befor in the area, when it came time to go to court i was ill in the hospital and my doctors wouldnt let me travel and this case took place in 2003 and my case was dismissed even if the dectives did there best ti fine the man and he was in jail but let loose and sence then he just got out aftera year for failing to give proper address becuse he is a sex offender the court could have taken a bad man off the strees in 2003 but i was ill but im greatfull for those that did help me locate him back them the dective and garden city police, if this man does hurt someone again becuse my case is on record i will beable to come to court again as a witnss of what he did to me, please come forward if you get rape and dont waite there are those that will help you, iam getting help emotionally over this becuse i feel if i could have come forward and was not ill the man would be sitting in jail today, but god dont like ugly and everone has to meet there master, we need to take theses sick men off the dtreets and john welsh is the guy, please come forward and help me take more sick sex offender off the streets and put them back where they belong with out the help of the public they emaid free, and the man that did this to me even if i didnt have my day in court he is already out in the open as a sex offender and he really didnt get off free, and im happy becuse of this, thankl you law for your help that was given up there in savannh g.a. and garden city, thank you so much

dear mr john welsh please read about what happen to me back in garden city g.a. and look into my case with the savannh g.a. victim witness program, they are awar of my case, maybe soneday some thing cane be done to the man whom rape me, its been years and befor he rape me it alrady was done to a women and child, this needs to be stop, thank you

also home protection. there are ways to protect your homes or apartments. I placed 3in. stud nails in all opening window frames(when lived on first floor) giving enough room for ventilation and air flow. but the windows could not be opened up far enough to allow someone to enter. Ther have to be web sites and or books at your local library concerning such problems. if not Please turn to your local Domestic Violence shelter for knowledge. also your local police dept. Good luck and God speed.

My gf just came out to me a few days ago informing me she was the victim of sexual assault when she was only 17 by a male she knew who was 20.

Im the first person she has ever told in 3 years and i dont know what to do. I obviously comforted her the best i could but i really feel we should go to the police.

is it too late? can they still put this guy away in prison? if we ever get him to court what are the chances he’ll be found guilty?
Is the judicial system just a waste of time and should i push to get her some therapy?

(we live in NJ btw for anyone that knows laws)

I will be back to check on this site so please respond to this post, i really need some advice on what to do.

And as a side note, we do need to get these sick people off the street. I am just ashamed and disgusted that there are such people out there shattering the lives of people that we love or will one day love

Also, if anyone feels there is some other site that i can visit that might offer more help, please post a link. i would really appreciate it.

My boyfriend was molested when he was younger. Is there a time limit on filing charges? He won’t go to counseling. How can I help him other than telling him that he’s ok and it wasn’t his fault?