How Can I Cope After A Sexual Assault?

I would like to tell any and all sexual abuse victims that it is not your fault and you can overcome the pain and mental anguish. I was abused by my “real father” for seven years. It was very hard to deal with. I went through a lot pain and suffering long after it stopped. Four years after it stopped I finally got to confront him and tell him everything that was on my mind. It helped tremendously. I put all of my pain, anger, mental anguish, and everything else into the confrontation and I let him have it. I gave it all back to him and I told him that he had to deal with what he had done to me. I tried therapy, group homes, just putting it in the back of my mind but none of that worked for me. It may work for you so definitely give it a try. I know that talking about it to a stranger is very difficult but do it at your own pace. Don’t let them force you to talk. A therapist should be very understanding, caring, and sensitive. If they aren’t then find a different one. If you need to talk you can always email me and I would gladly talk to you. I still have some bad days but I talk to myself and tell myself that he will not control my life any longer. If I need to cry, laugh, get angry & yell, then that is what I do. Do what makes you feel better.

Thanks alot from Cincinnati, Ohio

Yes, you can overcome the hurt feelings, but it does take time. I’m 36 and I vividly remember what my uncle did to me. For years I had to look at this person at family events and pretend that nothing ever happened. My parents would leave us alone with him while they went out and that is when the abuse begin. Since he is my mother’s younger brother, I did not confront her. At the time she was physically and mentally abusing….I was pretty much lost. As a result of the abuse I grew up feeling ashamed. I feared telling anyone in my family, after telling a teacher about the abuse from my mother, everyone in the family accussed me of lying, I was eight at the time. I still remember having to lie to the doctor about my broken are, “falling from a tree”. Over the years it took time for me to build self esteem and self worth, I still have my days….but god can get you through anything. I’m blessed today with a beautiful family and ensure them that I’m there for them and that they can always come to me for anything and we can talk about anything.

A PERSON THAT WOULD DO SOMETHING TERRIBLE TO YOU IS EVIL. BE STRONG . I KNOW IT MAY BE EASY BUT WHO EVERY DID THIS TO YOU JUST LEAVE IT IN GODS HAND AND HE WILL DO THE REST. I WILL KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYER. TRY TO TALK TO SOMEONE THAT YOU CAN TRUST. SOMEONE THAT CAN HELP YOU WITH YOUR PROBLEM.

SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU GOING THROUGH. BE STRONG.

I was molested by my father when I was 8yrs old Thank God my mom always believed me. I’m 44 now but the memories never go away, and just found out my stepdaughters were touched by their stepdad! Their mother hasn’t done anything and since the girls have now moved out on their own(20,21) she thinks everything is O.K.!?But they also have a 7 yr old sister. How and what can i say or do to get this monster to Justise?

im 19 and i honestly im at the stage where it gets even more confusing by the day. i had a very complicated childhood as i was an unplanned child. neither my parents wanted me so i was passed along different family members to be taken cared of. the abuse began at age 5 from an uncle and lasted 2 years daily. by age ten i was lost on whats real and whats not so i blocked alot of things out, expect now i remember too much. my last relationship kinda tiped it over board as it was voilent and sex was forced rather than mutual. like i said, it seems to be geting worse the older i get

I went missing for 2 years and i am now 15 years old. I went missing when i was 12, i was found when i was 14. It wasnt a fun experience, it was a scary one. I always regreted going into that car. Now im begining to recover and trying to live my life again. I have freinds and enemies but im with my family again. Thank goodness that guy’s sister phoned the police. So everybody please try to be safe. Make a safety plan and talk about talking to strangers. Carry a cellphone, and report everything even if you’re afraid. Just do it and you’ll be safe again,

When I was13 my cousin raped me while at our cabin with my family. We sleped outside in a tent where no one could hear us. He said that he loved me . I didnt realize what he had done untill I was 16. I told my boyfriend who told my grandmother who told my mother. At first I didnt want to talk to the police but that eventually changed. at first i didnt want to press charges but after the police told me that he had done it before IL changed my mind.
Some how he found out that I had pressed charges and he ran. Later the police caught him and it went to trial. while on the stand he pled guilty and went to jail for around a year.
I know how you feal. The church was a great comfort for me. Be strong!

i was in something like that when i was at the age of 14 the person thatlived by us chried to rap me

my name is joyce houston i was asking for your help not for this information to be postedfor all to see will you please help me

i am a victim of a sexual assult, i pray ithe adam walsh bill gos thru not just for the children but for people like me…i want the idot who made me a victim to have to register for life not just 10 yrs…

I been been molested when I was a kid, then when I was a teenager, my brother ws making indecent suggestion, at 27 a boyfriend raped me. He called 3 yeArs later as if nothing happened saying he wanted to say hello and make peace…. saying he did not me to snap if I saw him, I cannot stop thinkking about it!! i don t knowhow to get ridof those bloody feeling